How to Write a Eulogy
A eulogy is a spoken tribute that honours someone's life. It's usually delivered by a family member or close friend, and sometimes a few people share the role, each covering a different part of who that person was.
Being asked to speak is a privilege, but it can also feel daunting, especially when you're already carrying grief. There's no perfect formula. Every eulogy is as individual as the person it celebrates, so use the guidance below as a starting point and then make it your own.
Where to Begin
Early life and family
Where they were born and grew up
Parents, siblings, and childhood memories
Key relationships, including a spouse, children, or grandchildren
The hardest part is often just getting started. Give yourself permission to begin slowly. Sit quietly with your memories, look through old photos, read letters, or talk with other family members and friends. These conversations often surface the stories that matter most.
Their journey through life
Education and career
Hobbies, passions, and interests
Community involvement or causes they cared about
The personal details
Favourite sayings or phrases they were known for
Stories that will bring a smile to the room
Places, music, books, or films they loved
On the Day
It's completely normal to feel nervous. A few things that can help:
Read your eulogy aloud several times before the service
Breathe slowly and give yourself pauses
Remember that everyone in the room is on your side
If you're worried you won't make it through, ask someone to stand by and read it for you, or with you
What Matters Most
Your words don't need to be polished or perfect. They just need to be honest. The people in that room are there because they loved the same person you did, and they will be grateful for whatever you share.
If you'd like help writing or preparing your eulogy, our team is always happy to assist. It's part of what we're here for.